In the past when I’ve imagined getting married, besides being with the man who was “my person,” I always got excited about planning our wedding.
The colors, the decorations, the flowers, my bouquet, MY DRESS… I used to save things to my secret Pinterest board in the hopes that having an idea of how I wanted things to be would help make the planning process go more smoothly. Wrong. In fact, now that the time has come for me to actually plan our wedding, I’m more overwhelmed than anything.
We’ve been engaged since January of this year and we held off announcing our engagement because of all the pressure that it would add to an already nerve-wrecking situation. My Instagram announcement was met with lots of “congratulations” and well wishes but I was also bombarded by wedding planners, bridal services and other services related to tying the not all vying for our business. I’ve always known I’d be a DIY bride but all of that commotion reaffirmed that fact.
As of now, all I know is what we don’t want.
We don’t want a large, extravagant ceremony. We’re very chill and having only those who have been supportive of our relationship, our family and who genuinely want to see us thrive is of the utmost importance.
We don’t want to spend lots of money on things that won’t matter much in the long run or that we won’t be able to use again like real flowers and a bunch of signs. I’m a multi-use kind of girl, okay?
We don’t to be super traditional. After all, nothing about us is traditional. We met via social media, got pregnant eight months later and then again less than a year after that. And lastly, we don’t want everyone to focus on the ceremony or reception. We want our special day to be all about us and our story.
So far that’s all I’ve got, which leaves a lot of things on the table and us no where closer to finalizing everything.